For the past two days, I’ve hiked completely alone for the first time on my Pacific Crest Trail thruhike. Sure, there are lots of other hikers around—but I know none … Continue reading Giving Myself Permission to Need People
Feeling your best doesn’t just mean “looking good.” It means, first and foremost, cherishing and nurturing the body that you’re in. It means, instead of holding yourself to some standard of external beauty, holding yourself to a certain standard of self-care. Is there something you can do this year that will get you out of your head and into the “soft animal of your body”—even just for a moment? If so, my friend, I urge you to do it. The world around you will be better for it.
Amelia Earhart’s passion for flying must have deeply scared her husband and family. She must have known this, yet she chose to dedicate her life to it anyway. Then, what must have been her loved ones’ worst fear came true when she mysteriously disappeared over the Pacific Ocean on a flight around the globe. Was it OK for her to do that to her family? Was that an acceptable risk for her to take? Was that selfish of her? And would these question even come up if we were talking about a male adventurer?
Thank you for the gentle way you invite us in with your smile, your eye contact, the way you listen. You know what consent looks like. You wait for it to be written all over our faces before you lean in, tenderly taking our cheeks in your hands, slowly moving your lips towards ours until they meet for a dance in which no one leads and no one wins…
“The old version of us—bogged down by attachments and expectations about what being ‘partners’ is supposed to look like—died. Now, we are exploring each other as the people we really are, NOT based on our ideas of who the other person is or should be.”
“Girl power” isn’t necessarily just for people assigned female at birth. It’s about embracing a Feminine understanding of the world in a culture that predominately celebrates a decidedly Masculine perspective.
Financially, society highly rewards stripping and sex work. In fact, they are the only women-specific lines of work that are well-paid. Yet those professions aren’t seen as respectable. Why?
Give yourself permission to want what you want. Once you’ve let go of your own shame, communicate your desires to your partner honestly and thoughtfully. It’s not the same thing as asking them for their approval.
We tend to suppress or blame others for our negative emotions. But don’t try to hide from jealousy. It is one of the most powerful teachers of self-love there is.
Whether you’re on a first date or having a conversation with a friend of many years, what’s the most important thing you can do to make sure they feel seen, heard and respected?
Women’s boundaries are often crossed by well-intentioned men. Yet women play a role, too: we need to stop disregarding our OWN boundaries. Here’s how we can work together to do better.